A few years ago, I was asked to be the keynote apostle for the New Zealand Reflexology Association conference. They told me I should plan on my keynote accent accepting 1.5 hours. Now I accept presented abounding workshops, trainings, and presentations but I was never a keynote apostle so this was something new for me. What was I accept to accommodate for their aperture appointment keynote? With 1.5 hours I was told to set the accent for their weekend event. I abiding as heck didn’t apperceive what I was traveling to say. As I began to plan on my keynote, I absitively to tie it to their affair which they alleged ‘Getting to the Affection of Reflexology”. This affair was affiliated to the Wizard of Oz as it was their 10th ceremony and 10 years relates to tin, hence, the Tin Man who was searching for a heart.
FINDING MY REFLEXOLOGY PATH ALONG THE YELLOW BRICK ROAD
Spiritual agents acquaint us that the best way to ascertain our accurate purpose is to aboriginal accept who we absolutely are. This agency alive how we think, what our attached behavior are and what keeps us analytical and absorbed in something. As Reflexologists, our affair and adulation of our profession tells us a lot about ourselves. There is something bewitched about Reflexology that keeps us in the bold and analytical to assay added of this admirable healing modality.
Each of us has our own affidavit for continuing with this convenance and blockage on the chicken brick alley gluttonous to assay our adventure as we go along. And just like the Tin Man, The Lion, The Scarecrow, and Dorothy, we chase our paths breadth it takes us – anniversary for our own affidavit and anniversary footfall forth the way, clarifies added of the adventure itself.
My adventure started about 45 years ago anon afterwards the afterlife of my aboriginal bedmate if I was 27. I had 2 little girls and it was the aboriginal 70’s. For anyone as old as I am, you will bethink that the 70’s were a time of confusion, abysmal changes in the way humans went about accomplishing their lives, arduous the system, agitation the boat, and causing abounding earlier association to blemish their active and admiration what has become of us as a animal race. I absitively to move from my baby home boondocks in New York State to the big city-limits of Toronto to accompany my education. I capital to apprentice how to be me on my own agreement and I capital to ascertain my own path.
This was alarming at times but I figured, like Dorothy who was gluttonous to get aback to her home, I bare to ascertain my way aback to myself – my foundation of who I am. Forth this journey, I was advantageous abundant to ally Bill, who was aswell abandoned and had a baby son and aggregate our families, we became the Brady Bunch.
Bill alien me to brainwork which led me to yield my aboriginal yoga agents training in Toronto. One night afterwards class, my yoga abecedary said he capital to appearance me some burden point work. I was advantageous abundant to accept menstrual cramps at the time and he did some credibility on me which absolutely blown the cramps and I thought, wow, this abiding beats Midol pills.
About this aforementioned time Bill’s son, Ian was diagnosed with a curvature in his aback and we were beatific to Sunnybrook Hospital for X-Rays. The X-Rays showed that Ian’s hip cartilage fit into his hip atrium afield which concluded with one leg abundant beneath than the other. I asked my yoga abecedary about the burden point plan and whether it could advice Ian which led me to my aboriginal reflexology training alleged Vita Flex.
I told the abecedary about Ian’s leg and he had me accompany Ian to him and approved what I should plan on to antithesis the alterity demography abode in Ian at that time. He said there is in actuality a leg-lengthening point in the collar cartilage and besides acute this point, I was instructed to deride airing down both abandon of Ian’s aback and columnist into the accept brand credibility and the hip breadth credibility forth with the analgesic reflexes in the easily and feet. This took me all of 2 account every day and afterwards 3 months, we alternate to Sunnybrook for addition set of X-rays. Ian was absolutely normalized. We were actual impressed!
Now I was on my way – the healing arts was my focus and I was captivated and in awe of the acumen of the accustomed way of acclamation imbalances in the body, accent and astriction and auspicious the physique to accepting aback to balance. I couldn’t put my easily on people’s anxiety fast enough.
CONNECTING REFLEXOLOGY WITH PSYCHOLOGICAL SYSTEMS
On my journey, I gave treatments to audience while finishing my amount in Psychology and Animal Assets Management. Eventually, I started to plan in the accumulated apple breadth I was alien to the Myers Briggs Personality Type Indicator which looked at the animal apparatus in agreement of brainy functions. Cerebration about what the yogis declared that we are all allotment of the creation consisting of the aforementioned elements: Air, Fire, Water, Earth and bond this to the Myers Briggs, I accomplished that the two cerebral systems had abundant in accepted if searching at the animal instrument.
We can anticipate of ourselves as composed of the afterward Abandon or Expressions:
Mental Ancillary – accompanying to the aspect of Air,
Social Ancillary – accompanying to two elements – Fire and Water,
Physical Ancillary – accompanying to the aspect of Earth.
While alive as a trainer in the accumulated world, I spent a lot of years exploring, reading, and facilitating courses that helped humans appear to agreement with their ‘people’ differences ambidextrous with their subordinates as managers, their bosses, their ancestors members, aggregation mates and their clients.
So now Reflexology and ‘people differences’ became the two actual agitative apparatus of my adventure to self-discovery and I spent my time appetite to abode the question: How do we accord with these differences that can actualize triggers, tension, and stressors acquired by bumping up adjoin others whose account and behaviours are altered from mine? For me, activity appeared to be about how we each, as individuals, seek to amuse our needs and desires. Take, for example, the Straw Man in the Wizard of Oz who was searching for a Academician (the AIR-Mental Activity of Ideas), while the Cowardly Lion was searching for adventuresomeness (the FIRE-Social-Mental Activity of Actions), and the Tin Man was searching for his Affection (the WATER-Social-Physical Activity of subjectivity and Reactions), and Dorothy was searching for her Home (the EARTH-Physical activity of shelter, assurance and security). All on the aforementioned aisle but for altered affidavit – for sure, though, they were gluttonous to amuse an centralized need.
WHAT OUR CLIENTS’ LIMITING BELIEFS CAN DO
We are all seekers traveling about our lives but in our own way in an attack to amuse our needs. Forth this journey, we are faced with disappointments, with bad and acceptable weather, with ups and downs, and with joys and sorrows. If something happens in our lives that causes us some close tension, it may be because we accept some affair that we don’t ambition to face or accord with. It is important to accompany issues to the apparent so that they don’t could cause us a added austere problem. We can lose our focus and accuracy and get out of antithesis not just because of poor affairs habits but because added humans can activate an benumbed arrangement aural us which strives to be addressed.
What I accept activate over the years was that a lot of stress-related physique imbalances were about triggered by a austere activity event. Perhaps you activate this too in your Reflexology practice. In fact, as I affiliated to plan on audience if they came for treatments about a specific imbalance, I would ask them the question: if did this alterity start? Inevitably an alterity in the physique was triggered by an alterity in a accord or a disappointment at plan or some affectionate of activity disappointment that afflicted either the Brainy ancillary of ourselves and our expectations about our life; the Social ancillary of ourselves breadth we absent access with others who balked or aghast us, or the Physical ancillary of ourselves breadth we didn’t honour our boundaries in agreement of assets such as our energy, our money, or our time.
Limiting behavior in how we think, act, or do things in our activity can be something that we set up for ourselves if we were 5 or 10 or whatever age but that can be thoughts that still run our lives as adults such as: I don’t deserve this. I am not acceptable enough. Who do I anticipate I am?
These attached anachronous behavior may accept had some base in absorption us if we were adolescent but as we beforehand in our age and our lives, we apprentice that they don’t serve us any longer. First, though, we accept to become acquainted of them and afresh to acknowledge their abutment in our lives, we accept to acknowledge them for administration but we aswell accept to plan with these behavior by accretion or reframing them so that they are life-enhancing and not life-restricting.
Take, for example, a mother who got breast blight appropriate afterwards her 17 year-old son got a babe abundant and absitively to get affiliated to her. If asked about this event, she declared that the son was too adolescent and this wasn’t right. But what could she do? She acquainted trapped, confused, and black and appropriately – accepting a mother, what bigger attribute of motherhood than her breasts. So, to accord with this on an benumbed level, she not alone punished herself but aswell was backbreaking her son and his accommodation by accepting breast cancer. Activity is circuitous as we accord with abysmal claimed issues in our lives and I consistently say, you can’t break a botheration you don’t understand. Answers aren’t consistently bright but if we can assay and claiming our thinking, we can apparent our benumbed behavior and about-face them into able activity steps.
Another archetype was if Bill came aback from a business cruise and he had a abscessed elbow. If I asked him, ‘what happened at the meeting’, at aboriginal he couldn’t anticipate of annihilation but afresh if prodded, he accustomed that he was in actuality activity elbowed out of the project. His acquainted apperception didn’t aces up on that so his physique had to active him to pay attention. This was important for him to assay in adjustment for him to move advanced in his alive career and abode this affair which had to be addressed; the ablaze activity of affliction consistently has some advice for us if we assay it.
The physique is consistently cogent us things and we, as Reflexologists, apperceive this actual able-bodied because not alone can we aces things up through conversation, we can aswell feel aggregate in the reflexes in the feet. The anxiety don’t lie – they apperceive absolutely what is traveling on and they can acquaint us abounding things about our clients’ imbalances.
A WHOLISTIC HEALING APPROACH
How does alive added about who we are advice us as Reflexologists? The physique is affiliated to the accomplished arrangement of ourselves – the Mental, the Social, and the Physical abandon of ourselves. We cannot abstracted who we are from what we do, how we anticipate and go about accomplishing things in our lives and how things can affect us. The best way to break advantageous and counterbalanced is to be awake, alert, and acquainted of what is traveling on both central our cocky as able-bodied as how able-bodied we are adapting to the alfresco apple of events.
As I grew in my accord with Reflexology and with the Reflexology Association of Canada, I accept accomplished all the courses from bottom reflexology to hands, ears, and Agents Training for all 3 modalities. I was advantageous abundant to accept some acceptance yield all 3 modalities from me and I asked them: what is the aberration for you in accepting Reflexology of the Ears, Hands, and Feet? The answers were amazing to me and these answers put it all calm as a complete wholistic healing system.
What my acceptance bidding to me was absolutely as the Yoga Arrangement suggested. Balancing the arrangement aural requires that we calm the apperception (Mental), air-conditioned the affections (Social), and activate the physique (Physical). If alive the ears, acceptance told me that they acquainted calmer and added at accord (Mental). If alive the hands, acceptance told me that they acquainted admired and that their upsets and frustrations abolished and their affections breadth in fact, cooled (Social). And alive the feet, acceptance said that they acquainted activated and angry (Physical).
Viola! What a abundant analysis and how carefully it all fit calm with Yoga, Reflexology and Personality preferences understanding. Let’s do some affable plan calm starting with the aerial to abetment in abstracted the Brainy Function.
Let me get your aggressive first. Anticipate of the physique as backward fetus. The ear affiliate is the arch and the buttocks are at the high allotment of the ear.
Starting at the alien a lot of ancillary of your ear and with your basis feel and thumb, beating it as if you accept a alacrity berry that you ambition to move around.
Go forth the alien rim absolutely giving breadth 1 a beating – Breadth 1 is accompanying to the elimination and respiratory systems.
Zone 2 is accompanying to the ashen system. And Breadth 3 is accompanying to the centralized organs. The affiliate is accompanying to the head/rain breadth and the tragus and antitrgaus breadth is accompanying to the inflammations and fevers. Finish up with the tragus and antitragus reflex breadth giving the absolute physique a massage. You may feel like traveling to beddy-bye now but adhere in there, we’ll do some added work.
Do the scissor movement by abrading up and down with your basis fingers abaft the aerial and your added fingers in foreground of the aerial as if you are captivation your arch in the award of your hand. Lovely. Actuality is an extract from my new book: The Well-Tempered Life: Coach Yourself to Wellness.
The high allotment of the ear corresponds to the lower allotment of the body. Applying burden actuality stimulates reflexes in legs, hips, thighs, changeable organs, and knees, locations of the urinary system, and the easily and arms.
The average allotment of the ear corresponds to the average allotment of the body. Applying burden actuality stimulates reflexes in the intestines, stomach, liver, spleen, acrimony bladder, and allotment of the urinary system.
The mid to lower breadth of the ear corresponds to the high allotment of the body. Applying burden actuality stimulates reflexes in the chest, breast, lungs, high close and back.
The lower allotment of the ear corresponds to the top of the body. Applying burden actuality stimulates reflexes in the neck, arch and brain.
Let’s move assimilate the Social Activity and application Reflexology of the Hands.
1. Rub and choke the hands
2. Columnist all your feel tips calm 10x
3. With your basis finger, bash all the feel necks
4. Beating the webs
5. Interlace the fingers and columnist into the absolute palmar area
6. Flex wrist and afresh agitate your easily wildly
7. Duke applause and hug yourself
Working the easily is abnormally admirable to do with earlier humans who charge the abundance of blow to advice them feel affiliated and loved.
Next, let’s activate the anxiety reflexes.
When cerebration about the body, alive the anxiety as we apperceive has a aesthetic affecting throughout the physique and is abnormally acceptable to do if activity lethargic, dull, tired, and fatigued.
For this, accomplishing a 2-minute exercise application the Bottom Beating Mat — SOCKS SHOULD BE WORN WHEN FIRST USING THE MAT AND ESPECIALLY FOR TENDER FEET. Lay the Bottom Beating mat on a collapsed attic abaft a armchair and advance up and down on the sole of the feet, on the toes, on the abandon of the feet, on the heels, and already afresh on the collapsed of the feet.
QUESTIONS TO CLARIFY OUR REFLEXOLOGY JOURNEY
I anticipate my adventure and my adulation of Reflexology is axiomatic in the constancy of my activities with it and my charge to administration Reflexology with others. I don’t apperceive how abounding acceptance I accept accomplished over the years in the hands, feet, and ear and agents training reflexology courses – lots! Did I apperceive that this was a life-long love? Not if I started but as I affiliated on my journey, I became clearer about what kept me curious, absorbed and affianced in life.
As you abide on your aisle down the chicken brick alley to acquisition the answers for yourself in agreement of your claimed and able Reflexology journey, you may ambition to acknowledgment some of these questions for yourself:
a. Do you see Reflexology as a amusement or as a profession?
b. What are some goals you ability assay for yourself today and into your approaching with your convenance of Reflexology?
c. Breadth do you activity your treatments? Home, clinics, spas, medical centres, chiropractic office, hairdressing, esthetics?
d. What added modalities ability you accede demography to accompaniment your reflexology treatments? Aroma therapy, Reiki and activity work, esthetics, massage?
e. What are you charging and how are you accepting accustomed for your work? The costs can add up if you are appropriate to yield able development apprenticeship units, pay for accountability insurance, accompany associations and pay your associates dues. Are you authoritative abiding you get paid a fair amount for your service?
f. What about the economy? Who is your applicant and can they allow this account if it is not covered by any of their allowances or plans?
g. What about acceptance standards. Who sets the standards? What are they? How do we advise these to our acceptance and convenance them in our account to our clients? How do we adviser them?
Next, yield a moment and afresh complete the following:
1. Demography Activity – Let’s brainstorm you accept activate a abracadabra lamp. You aces it up and absent-mindedly activate to achievement it and it starts to talk. As you listen, it tells you that as money is not an article of concern, what activity accomplish would it acquaint you to yield in agreement of your Reflexology career?
2. Acquaint anyone – actualize a plan, allotment it with anyone you assurance and anticipate about how you’ll feel already you complete all the activity accomplish on your plan.
The catechism for all of us is truly, what is reflexology to you? Breadth are you currently with it in your life? Breadth do you ambition to go? Accepting to the affection of Reflexology is both a claimed as able-bodied as a able question.
How can we appearance our acquaintance of Reflexology today and into the future? One way is to accomplish whatever you chose to do calculation for you. Adulation what you do. Keep accomplishing what you adulation to do and I am abiding that things will amount themselves out forth the way – we can use the metaphors of the Scarecrow, the Lion, and the Tin Man and Dorothy to authenticate that you do absolutely acquisition your own way based on your own needs and whatever way that is, for sure, it is the appropriate aisle for you.